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Determine your purpose

I took this photo on our honeymoon in Bellagio, Italy- overlooking the Swiss Alps

Good morning and what a beautiful Thursday it is! I've written about purpose in the past, but it occurred to me that I need to speak about this topic again. Too many individuals are walking around and not living out their purpose. I completely understand that financial reasons often prevent individuals from not pursuing what makes them happy. Yet, I don't find this to be a good excuse to not live your dreams. From the bottom of my heart, I believe that God gives each of us special abilities/gifts that are unique to just us, and that none of our gifts are the same. However, one can not and should not be lazy with cultivating their gifts. You have to work hard in every way to nurture your gifts (just like watering a plant), and eventually it will come to life.

I'll give you a personal example. I always knew that I wanted to be self employed. Since I was a little girl, I remember going to my Dad's office and filing papers for him. I pretended to be his secretary and I would sit at the desk in his waiting room and just look around. My goodness, what a feeling I achieved in being present in that moment. I knew that one day, I too would have my own office with the sign outside stating my name on it. When I did work at an agency for many, many years, I was a good employee, because I knew that I had to cultivate myself to get to THAT place one day. I worked for companies as a therapist for 10 years before I stepped out on my own. I knew that it would take time, but it was my TIME and I was ready. The rest truly speaks for itself. I am flourishing as a private practice owner, and I am growing as a professor and in other areas in so many ways. What a blessing!

Identifying your purpose and stepping out on that purpose- TAKES TIME. It is nothing to be rushed and it is nothing that should be taken lightly.

How do you know what your purpose is, you may ask?

I can summarize it to this very common statement that I often share with individuals: If you think that at the age of 90, you would still love what you are doing and will still feel good about doing it- then by gosh you have found your purpose!!!

I caution you- There will be people who might try to block you from finding your purpose. They may criticize, demean, and make you feel inferior because you are stepping out and doing what makes you happy. My advice is to ignore them!!! There will always be those individuals who will never have anything nice to say. Those individuals are often unhappy with their own lives; and probably angry that they do not want to take the time to cultivate their own purpose.


To close out today's blog- I hope you truly heed my advice and cultivate your gifts. Your purpose is worth you working hard to achieve. Remember,  There is no rush!

One of my favorite scriptures is Proverbs 19:21- "You can make many plans, but the Lord's purpose will always prevail"

Be blessed and make today count towards finding your purpose!

                                        - Dr. Lori


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